Loneliness can affect anyone, and more than 9 million people in the UK say they feel lonely some or most of the time.
Certain challenges and changes in our lives can often lead to us feeling lonely, including changes in situation, health issues, and feeling different from other people around you.
Feelings of loneliness can come and go, but feeling lonely for a long period of time can lead to mental and physical health problems. This includes stress, anxiety and depression, heart disease, obesity, stroke and Alzheimer’s disease. Research from the US Surgeon General also suggests that loneliness could be as harmful on the body as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
There are some actions and coping methods you can use if you are feeling lonely:
- It’s important to open up to someone about how you’re feeling. Start a conversation about your loneliness with a friend, family member, or health professional. You could also contact Samaritans anonymously by calling 116 123.
- Consider joining a group or class focused on one of your hobbies or interests. Places such as your local library, community centre, church, cafés and pubs usually hold regular events and meet-ups, and your local area’s Facebook page will advertise upcoming events. You could also find support and company by visiting a Wellbeing café or drop-in event, such as Horton Housing’s Wellbeing Cafes in Selby.
- Volunteer for a good cause. Volunteering can help you cope with loneliness by bringing you together with people and giving you something positive to do in your spare time.
- Build positive, meaningful relationships. Keep in contact with the people who mean the most to you, by reaching out and talking openly about your feelings. Read more about building meaningful connections here: https://www.redcross.org.uk/get-help/get-help-with-loneliness/wellbeing-support/building-relationships-maintaining-connections
- Check out the mental health charity Mind and their peer support groups, where you can meet people and share your experiences: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/peer-support-groups/how-to-find-a-support-group/.
- Try making healthy lifestyle choices to improve your self-esteem and confidence. This includes diet, exercise, sleep, and self-care.
- Use social media in a positive way. Depending on how you use social media, it can have positive and negative impacts on your mental health. Engaging with friends, digital communities, and shared interests online can help with feelings of loneliness. Notice how social media makes you feel, and give yourself permission to take breaks when it feels overwhelming.
Support is available if you are experiencing loneliness, anxiety, depression, or mental health challenges.
Visit the websites below for more advice and support:
NHS – Mental health: Feeling lonely
NHS Every Mind Matters – Dealing with loneliness
Mind – Loneliness and mental health